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At a meeting at work last week, my colleague told the story of how her son, 17, took the 17 -year -old to his first party, Kim Deal in Brooklyn Paramount. She was very excited to detonate his mind, to present him to the charm of live music that she discovered at the age of fifteen when she first went to the rock music itself. How wonderful, I thought, I imagined her son, forever when he was asked, “What is the first band that she saw living?” He got the answer that he went with his mother to see a rock icon like Deal, the guitarist and lady in the indisputable hip teams The Pixies and Breeders. This made everyone at the meeting reveal the first group they saw at the ceremony.

Perhaps more than any other part of the personal trivial, I find this great. Learn about them Adolescent tastes in music. If their parents take them, you learn something about their childhood. (“Oh, he had a kind of parents who took 6 years old to see Stely Dan!”) The first concerts of my colleagues were impressive: rotation rotation, REM in the Monster tour. The mine was the pressure on the 15 -year -old English rock band, the third -grade, Madison Square Park.

People love to tell you about their first parties. It is a jewel box for a question, and an invitation to reveal something unique about themselves, to tell a good -acting story. They get a lot or a little from your taste as you feel comfortable – “Look, you are always cold” or “God, look at what you were.” It is the perfect sample of this most active activity in the companies you know: the ice slit.

During the past few days, a non -scientific but completely convincing study of my friends’ feelings about ice caps. They are all, for someone who hate them. Get it. On their face, team construction exercises should be handled of any kind. The ice slit aims to reduce people. How can one wonder wisely, is it appropriate at all to obtain work? We wander around the table that our favorite breakfast pills are useful, not harmful, but I am not sure that I want to reveal anything more intimate than the entire marketing department.

However, as much as it could be in the context of action (is there anything more humiliating than trying to evoke a “fun truth about yourself”?), I will defend a good The ice slit as a pleasant shortcut to the intimate relationship. In a previous job where I managed a weekly meeting for employees, each meeting started with the icewear. It was a good part of my team away, before the distant work was normal, and it seems that it is impossible to rest with each other without the kind of built intervention. It has disturbed myself, but as soon as the team members get to know each other a little, the icewear became a pleasant salon game, which is a way to approach, to remind ourselves that we were two interesting drivers, even in the workplace matrix.

If we look back at my ice cups of those weekly meetings, I see in my notes questions I have no idea how to answer people closest to me, and I tend to ask them. Some of these questions that I created, some came from the writer The newsletter of Rob and Walker “the art of observation”, “ Some came from the team. “What is the first thing you bought with your own money?” “What were you doing in 23?” “What is the great thing but you hate doing it?” “What are the most common things that people say when your hometown tells them?”

It may feel embarrassed or artificial to ask these questions in the middle of a regular conversation, but it may be fun to deliberately ask your family to your family at dinner, or a group of friends who think you know everything, or your wife. For those of us who understand the benefit of the little conversation, but they denounce the slow and ineffective questions of questions-where are you, what do you do, any brothers? – The ice slit does only what they claim. You can wait until the ice melts, or you can just break it with a question that gets something interesting in reality, reveals a little. You do not have to call them the ice slit. Outside of the corporate frameworks, ice casuals are just as manifestations of curiosity. What do you really want to know about the person you are talking about? Why not just ask them?

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