A teenager dissects Netflix drama with anxious parents

“It is strange to talk about your parents’ sexual feelings,” says 15 -year -old.

His parents, Sophie and Martin, two professionals in the 1940s, understand the understanding. They are discussing the types of “big issues” raised by the use of social media for Ban, and for their talks about sex and pornography, the “worst”.

Family-Bin Small sister, who is smaller than joining the discussion-is collected in their living room to dissect Netflix drama with deals that they saw in the previous evening.

The series follows the story of the 13 -year -old protagonist, Jimmy, who is accused of killing a female counterpart after being exposed to hate materials online and exposed to online domination.

Both Bin’s parents are concerned about the behavior of their son is affected by the materials he is exposed to, and Bin, who feels anxious himself, is trying to set boundaries on the use of his phone.

Looking at their fears, and how they interfere with adolescence, the family agreed to watch the program together and allowed BBC News to sit in their discussion, which ranged between the importance of Andrew Tate to whether boys and girls could be friends.

Ben sits on the sofa in the living room and passes on his phone before the start of the conversation.

Parents take their seats appear relaxing despite the difficult topics that they discuss. Pictures of loved ones lined up on the shelves of books in the living room in the family, and the piano stands on the wall.

Sophie says that Sophie and Martin worked hard to create a “very open” family, as “all topics are on the table.” While watching the program, Sophie presented a list of things to talk about with Ben.

A teenage boy, confident and frank, loves him with his fellow students in his individual government high school. But the characteristics that make him enjoy popular with his peers often fall into trouble with his professors, who give him or send him to isolate to do what his mother describes as “inappropriate comments.”

At the exhibition, Jimmy and his peers use the language associated with “Manosphere” – web sites and online forums that promote the reproduction of women and the opposition to women – and the Culture of INCEL. Incels, an abbreviation of uncomfortable threats, they are men who blame women because they are unable to find a sexual partner. It is an ideology This has been linked to terrorist attacks and killing in recent years.

Perhaps it is surprising that “Incel” was not a familiar term, and his father Martin had to explain this while watching the program.

“People call each other” virgin. ” It suggests that the term may have “stopped” the social media of young people in recent years, reflecting the pace with which the conversation is moving online.

Bin Wali tells that there are elements of the show he realizes, including his photography of battles and online domination at school. But he believes that it is only a “approximate picture” of what looks like a teenager today, and that he was mainly made for “an adult who is not online.”

For example, it neglects to show the good aspect of social media along with its risks, he says, and some details – including secret emojis symbols that one of the characters used by children.

For this reason, Martin, who says he enjoyed tense drama, also feels that the show plays on the “worst nightmare” for all parents about using their child’s phone, which means that he sometimes prefers plays over realism in an attempt to “try to shock” adults.

Andrew Tate, the influencer and central character of the mysterious world on the Internet in Manusvir, was mentioned by name in the drama and was a great concern between parents and teachers. But Ben says that while Andrew Tate was “common” in his school about two years ago, he is now “old news.”

Ben note the way in which Tate combines health, luxury and politics. Ben says: “Some of his purposes, such as” exercise for an hour per day “-are equal enough, this is true. But then he combines them with far-right ideas, such as” the man must go out and the wife should remain at home. “

Both parents agree that Tate does not bear the blame for women’s hatred. As much as they care, it is a symptom of a “greater social problem”.

This problem is flagrantly represented in the dark adolescence of male and female friendships in the social media age. The protagonist Jimmy has no friends, and he seems to see relations with the opposite sex through a lens of domination and manipulation.

Sophie is concerned that the interactions between boys and girls are distant and unaware in the collection of Nazir Ben. She says that Ben does not have many opportunities to mix girls in his age.

She is afraid that her son will get most of his information about how to interact with girls from social media. “It is really twisted,” she says. “They do not know how to behave around each other.”

Her son asks a question: “If you don’t know how to talk to girls when you feel embarrassed, if you love,” EURGH, I don’t know how to wear “, where do you go to help?”

“On the Internet,” says Ben.

His mother says: “So he goes a complete circle.” “This is where they get information.”

Ben is not embarrassing that he “uses ChatGPT for two years” to get this type of tips. “Or tikhak”, he adds.

Sophie says that Ben learned more about friendship with the opposite sex while visiting his cousin’s house, who is attending a mixed school and has friends.

You remember that the cousin of Bin Yabakhah after he asked Bin about whether his cousin was attracted to a friend.

Ben says: “I do not remember him, get upset with me like this, but well.”

They discuss their changing memories of events until they land on a copy they can agree on: “His cousin was like,” no, this is my friend. I do not think about it in this way, “says Sophie.

“It was really open to him,” she says. She remembers: “You came back from him, and I was like,” he is much better (in my cousin), girls and boys are friends. “

In the Netflix drama, it was found that Jimmy Katie’s victim was bullying to women after a classmate participated in her intimate photos without her consent.

Jimmy’s discussion about this incident with a psychiatrist for children, played by Irene Duhreti, is pivotal in the third famous episode of the program.

Ben has seen this kind of abuse of confidence among his peers as well. He says: “There is a man near here, and (a picture) of its members has leaked in a huge group conversation with many people.” “This was a big thing on Tiktok.”

The series starts with an episode in which the police ask Jimmy about the sexual photos of adult women who shared on his Instagram page, which hints the ease with which young adolescents can access pornography.

This seems familiar to milk, who believes porn is the “largest issue” among his counterpart. He knows the “addicted” boys on this: “They depend on him. There are people of my year that will have a bad day unless they see it.”

Bin screams a little while talking about pornography, staring at the wall or filling his phone.

It seems more comfortable in talking about other forms related to the content that young people appear online.

It is estimated that “one out of 10” videos that he watches on his phone contain painful materials, including severe violence scenes. Ben’s parents are not subject to any delusions that their son is “safe” just because he is on the top floor on his computer – unlike my father Jimmy in the show.

For Martin and Sophie, the solution lies in giving children better opportunities to “participate” in society and build their self -esteem.

They say they are also keen that their son have a “wide range” of male roles to learn from them. Ben, who temporarily stopped to verify his phone several times in the context of his discussion, is re -retaliation with the conversation.

He is moving in his praise for his athletes, who like their “strong morals”.

Parents’ gesture, his enthusiasm is clear. They say they pack their son’s life with activities in an attempt to keep him away from his phone. But this is costly, as they say, and the poorest students put in a non -favorable position.

“He does not have a sport. He is not satisfied with himself. His father looks away when he fails.”

Sophie says that the teenager shows that children with limited opportunities to build their self -esteem are more likely to predict the influencers of women.

Both parents agree on technology companies, government, schools and families, all of which bear the responsibility of providing young people a convincing alternative to calling for sirens in Manveri.

They insist that parents cannot do it alone. As Sophie says, “It is a tsunami and gave me someone an umbrella.”

Ben believes that what is happening online often is rejected by adults as not related to the real world. He believes this is a mistake. Social media must be treated “like real life – because it is a real life.”

*All names have been changed in this article.